Incidentally, the ultra-lowbie (lvls 1-10) duelling is really the most competitive PVP that you get with this game. The rest is just about gear grind, and which team has the better class composition, vent/mumble usage, and luck on the day. PVP is virtually non-existent.
In the real world, fights don't happen on Final Destination with items turned off, with Fox as the only selectable character.
Real competition occurs when you elevate yourself to the level of your enemies, rather than when you whine for your enemies to descend to your level. Perhaps you should try going into a fight with a balanced, solid class comp and use voice chat to organize yourself? The gear grind isn't particularly long in this game, by the way.