Sensitive issue I know, and only have a very low level alt on LC.
I played on Trask Ulgo (RP PVE), which was very active PVP wise (my main focus) - we recently transfered too The Progenitor (RP PVE again), as did Shalton Tunnels server. The server is very busy, at least compared to how either was previously, with PVP non-stop throughout the day, little queue time, and several WZs at level 50 running at the same time. The PVP community on both sides is very good, as is the RP. I've even had limited PVP and RP in the Outlaws Den, something I had not seen for months on my old server.
I'm sure, if you were to be able to transfer here, you would find it to your taste both RP wise and PVP wise.
This site has been set up this week http://theprogenitor.com, though very new shows a good new community is forming. If you have to push for a new server to go too other then TOFN, then hopefully The Progenitor would be an excellent home for you all. There is also a RP site http://www.swtor-rp.com/progenitor though not sure how active it is currently.
I will add my name in pushing for an option for transfer to The Progenitor, what they have offered so far is ridiculous and needs sorting.