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I've become obsessed with this game- I need advice

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TheSupaCoopa
03.24.2014 , 07:31 PM | #1
Duran'del here:

I had a sudden epiphany today I've become obsessed with SWTOR. I've judged how "productive" a day is by judging how much TOR I've played, and the more time I spend on it, the more productive the day is. Its saddening. This obsession has had impacts on my real life- I forget to eat, to drink, to study, and sometimes to do homework.

I guess this obsession comes from the fact that my first "MMO" I played, LEGO Universe, died off one and a half years after its release. Now I guess I'm afraid the same will happen to SWTOR, and I subconsciously try to spend all of my peaking moments on it... I guess it doesn't matter in the end, but it matters to me, if it makes sense.

Does anyone have any advice? I got Lost Planet 3 yesterday, so I guess I could play that for a bit, and there's also Titanfall. Do any huge MMO players have any advice on how to help me get off this MMO addiction?
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03.25.2014 , 04:11 AM | #2
Here is what I do:

Use the MMO as a reward. Do you still have homework to do? Yes? Playtime is not now. Have you had dinner yet? No? Playtime is not now. Etc.

If you use it as a reward for actually getting your stuff done, your playtime will be that much more pleasurable because, in the back of your head, you'll know you have all the important stuff finished.

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chillshock
03.25.2014 , 04:46 AM | #3
As long as there is anything RL on your list: Don't play. Do it. The faster you get the necessary stuff done, the better.

Balancing your free (game) time and your worktime will remain an important part of all your life, btw. So you could say "you are currently learning for life".

Also: get a girl! :P

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Ryvirath
03.25.2014 , 06:16 AM | #4
Quote: Originally Posted by TheSupaCoopa View Post
Duran'del here:

I had a sudden epiphany today I've become obsessed with SWTOR. I've judged how "productive" a day is by judging how much TOR I've played, and the more time I spend on it, the more productive the day is. Its saddening. This obsession has had impacts on my real life- I forget to eat, to drink, to study, and sometimes to do homework.

I guess this obsession comes from the fact that my first "MMO" I played, LEGO Universe, died off one and a half years after its release. Now I guess I'm afraid the same will happen to SWTOR, and I subconsciously try to spend all of my peaking moments on it... I guess it doesn't matter in the end, but it matters to me, if it makes sense.

Does anyone have any advice? I got Lost Planet 3 yesterday, so I guess I could play that for a bit, and there's also Titanfall. Do any huge MMO players have any advice on how to help me get off this MMO addiction?
Get socially involved. Get a girl/or guy (21st century, whatever floats your boat). Develop a hobby. Find a passion and wean yourself slowly off, using it as an end of day reward. If you can't do that with access to SWTOR around then have somebody you trust change your password and email address. They'll hold onto it for however long (I suggest at least 3 months) you tell them to, hopefully with instructions to not give it to you however persuasively you beg. It's like any other addiction in that respect. You'll find your desire to play will lessen greatly the more time has passed.

It's kind of an odd duck. Almost everyone who has played MMOs has been addicted at some point. Most stop when they completely burn out and their life is not on the trajectory they planned. Burnout takes years and gradually becomes enmity and entitlement towards the game and the company that runs it. You might begin to clench your jaw as you play and become frustrated with every little thing. You might lose track of time, procrastinate, or frequently re-schedule appointments.

Frankly I would advise going cold turkey and entrusting your account to an understanding family member. Recognizing it as a problem is very important, but it's rare to turn that around into abstinence. Above all, remember that it's a game. It's not a replacement for life, it's something you do to unwind from life. As you move past the addiction, you'll get perspective. At that point you can decide whether SWTOR is something you can continue to unwind with or if it's something best left in the past.

It has such a remarkable co-morbidity with other psychological symptoms. These range from personality disorders like bipolar and depression to autistic spectrum disorders like aspergers. It's actually somewhat irresponsible in this respect that there aren't prominent warnings of addiction potential on the product. Consequently it's something of a black sheep even among the gamer culture that spawned it. You may want to seek counseling, but I'd suggest trying the above methods first.
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03.25.2014 , 06:41 AM | #5
Set aside a chunk of time that is your video game time and limit the time you play video games to only that time. Maybe it's an hour or 2 before you go to bed or something. You don't get to play video games before that time and you have to go to bed at your bed time. Then this game becomes something to look forward to and you can make the best use of your time when you are playing.

As someone that has has gotten on the obsessive side of mmorpgs I can say that if limit your play time you tend to make sure the time you do spend playing counts. If you feel like you have accomplished something in game then it's easier to put it down. Like when I'm leveling it's a lot easier for me to walk away after I've finished the quests for that area. You can then plan your playing around good stopping points.

If you don't set limits to your play time then you tend to waste a lot of time doing nothing just because you want to be in game, and that's not healthy.
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TheSupaCoopa
03.25.2014 , 03:34 PM | #6
Thanks for the advice, everyone.

While I'm definitely not going cold turkey, I am trying play other games alongside SWTOR. I'm trying to take breaks from the game occasionally, and I guess my obsession is mostly because I'm an Aspy- when I find something I like, I try to play it no matter what. I'm probably going to take a break from the game once a week and try a game or gamemode I've never played before, just so I can broaden my horizons.

I'm not very social, but I am trying to go to my school's social club after-scool every week and try to make a few friends aside from the few I already have.
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03.26.2014 , 04:52 PM | #7
My philosophy since I started playing MMOs 13+ years ago is that the moment I feel I have to play (for whatever reason) is the exact moment I know it's time for a break. Sometimes it's a day, others it's a week. The point is to get away from it for a while.
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Mad_Magus
03.26.2014 , 05:46 PM | #8
Quote: Originally Posted by psandak View Post
My philosophy since I started playing MMOs 13+ years ago is that the moment I feel I have to play (for whatever reason) is the exact moment I know it's time for a break. Sometimes it's a day, others it's a week. The point is to get away from it for a while.
I have to agree. It took 7 years of being addicted to MMOs (in my case Eve), to realize the real life comes first, and a 'need to play' is a distant second. Well said Psandak.

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Kaedusz
03.26.2014 , 06:36 PM | #9
First method:
get really drunk and watch some movie or game cutscenes based on a completely different franchise( i suggest Mass Effect) that you might fancy.
being drunk should amplify the effect of the film and reboot your brain.
the next day you won't be in the mood to play any games because of the terrible hangover,and 1 day will pass without any craving for swtor.
the day after that try out the new franchise you liked,from which the movie you watched while drunk is based on

this should balance things out and you will spend less time on 1 single franchise and less time on the pc

Also liking more than 1 franchise burns you out because you don't allow yourself by default to get too much into a single one.This means you will find yourself bored sitting on the PC and wanting to do something else.


Second method:
get a girlfriend. Getting laid,without a serious girlfriend will just make you rationalize to yourself spending even more time on the game. A relationship is paramount.

Third method:
Get really drunk using different types of alcohol for the ultimate nausia and hangover, and then while drunk listen to your favorite swtor soundtracks and cutscenes in order to get nerdgasms.
After this experience you will associate the game on some level and especially the music, with the terrible nausia you felt while drunk and while in hangover.Which means it will be less likely to fall into the obsession circle again.
If the first time doesn't work.Get drunk again.It will work in the end.

Fourth method:
Start working out seriously.With a program and all.The endorphins your body produce will make you feel weird spending too much time on the PC.
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the purpose of these methods is for you to get tired of swtor or any franchise by natural means-meaning you will suddenly not feel like playing,just like that,by yourself.
Forcing yourself not to play cold turkey ,while craving it deeply and thinking about the game whole day is a crappy method.
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These methods are all equally valid and are tried and true.

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TheSupaCoopa
03.26.2014 , 07:28 PM | #10
Quote: Originally Posted by Kaedusz View Post
First method:
get really drunk and watch some movie or game cutscenes based on a completely different franchise( i suggest Mass Effect) that you might fancy.
being drunk should amplify the effect of the film and reboot your brain.
the next day you won't be in the mood to play any games because of the terrible hangover,and 1 day will pass without any craving for swtor.
the day after that try out the new franchise you liked,from which the movie you watched while drunk is based on

this should balance things out and you will spend less time on 1 single franchise and less time on the pc

Also liking more than 1 franchise burns you out because you don't allow yourself by default to get too much into a single one.This means you will find yourself bored sitting on the PC and wanting to do something else.


Second method:
get a girlfriend. Getting laid,without a serious girlfriend will just make you rationalize to yourself spending even more time on the game. A relationship is paramount.

Third method:
Get really drunk using different types of alcohol for the ultimate nausia and hangover, and then while drunk listen to your favorite swtor soundtracks and cutscenes in order to get nerdgasms.
After this experience you will associate the game on some level and especially the music, with the terrible nausia you felt while drunk and while in hangover.Which means it will be less likely to fall into the obsession circle again.
If the first time doesn't work.Get drunk again.It will work in the end.

Fourth method:
Start working out seriously.With a program and all.The endorphins your body produce will make you feel weird spending too much time on the PC.
* * *
the purpose of these methods is for you to get tired of swtor or any franchise by natural means-meaning you will suddenly not feel like playing,just like that,by yourself.
Forcing yourself not to play cold turkey ,while craving it deeply and thinking about the game whole day is a crappy method.
* * *
These methods are all equally valid and are tried and true.
I'm way too young for all four of those methods. I'd have to wait around 5-6 years on order to drink, and I know it sounds weird, but I have no in consuming alcohol or getting a girlfriend.

But thanks for the advice and concern. I've been playing different games along with this one, doing my homework, and setting goals for myself while I play. Its been working out quite well.
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