what elements of female character appearance would get you to whisper them

Yeah I like this, it's like being undercover. I never, ever correct it, ever. When derps start their "GUY IN REAL LIFE" crap in GenChat or something I just smirk and consider it cover-reinforcement.

I used to get all annoyed by it and correct people when I was new to MMOs (like in WoW), but then I started to realize all that does is exponentially increase the amount of creepers and weird treatment you deal with... and that it has no effect on my actual gameplay if Random Party Member #72,567 assumes I have a beard and muscle shirt on.

Like, I don't go out of my way to pretend one way or the other (usually I'm too busy like... playing), but I'm perfectly happy with my guy-ouflage.

That's part of why it stands out as so weird when someone does assume I'm female, since I do nothing to encourage that while quietly playing my characters.

It's also really not important. *blinks* I usually write 'he' in discussions on the internet, be it in a flashpoint or on a forum, simply because it's absolutely impossible to know the persons real gender, so I just assume it's a guy until proven otherwise.

I also really don't care if the person is male, female or an asexual amoebae, all that matters is if he/she/it does his/her/its role in the flashpoint and is decently pleasant to converse with in chat or on forums. ;X

You'd think so in Empowered 2014 but then you see what happens when eg, a cutie voice hits Mumble and you can practically hear the collective denim straining over the mic.

It's just human nature I guess, I mean I've been guilty of getting stupid along other guildies in WoW when we had this smoking hot deep-voiced Australian guy in our Flex PUG ♥

But yeah. It "shouldn't" matter but...

I vividly remember that one time where our chaotic WoW raid (back in WotLK... Naxxramas. We weren't very professional) finally got an experienced raidleader for one run. A soft spoken lady, that in a matter of seconds managed to get EVERYONE to be quiet and do their job. after only exchanging a few sharp words <3 It was hilarious.

But eh, I guess I'm more used to a high ratio of female players, because I'm a roleplayer? *shrugs* In my experience you find a lot of females on RP Servers. Certainly more than on normal Servers. So yeah, a female voice on voice chat isn't all that unusual, so people aren't really surprised by it.

I forgot where I was going with this. I'll stop my rambling.

this basically, especially underlined part.

and also... still creepy that assumption of female behind the avator somehow means - creepy sex come ons are acceptable? :/

edited to add. I'm on RP server and now I wonder if its a contributing factor? I do know a lot of female players, more so than in other games I've played (and whether its a coincidence, correlation or something else - SWTOR is my first MMo where I actively created characters on roleplaying servers)

Welcome to anonymity. It tends to bring out the worst in people. Just look at 4chan.

/edit: Not that I would like it any less anonymous. I like my anonymity.

I find that, generally, the only individuals who practice such ridiculousness are the incredibly young, or incredibly stupid. -bp

I would expect to be referred to as per gender of my character, but I am new to MMO But nope, I am too busy to care either! If they think I am a guy playing a female toon... still don't care.

And I assume nobody whispers when you play a guy I am about to start running my male toons....

I was once playing with my male friend. He was on his Sent who had Eradicator's armor combined to Regal Miniskirt ^^
(miniskirt was inside joke, normally he wears full Valiant Jedi) but, one full slavegirl type Guardian tank then said to himin groupchat something like: Omg how sexy you are, I have fetish to miniskirts O_o my friend changed back to Valiant JedI right away

Ookay... I was thinking of shopping for some male-bikini wear for my boys, but I admit, I haven't thought of a mini-skirt. I take it, there is not much in the proud-of-my digital abs gear department out there?