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Parents and Kids playing?

origamikitsune's Avatar

03.12.2012 , 01:50 AM | #41
I play more with my girlfriend's parents than I do with my girlfriend. Do flash points with them all the time. My sister plays as well. We are in a guild run by a mother, her children and in-laws. We are mostly a guild of "Family and Friends" as opposed to "Friends and family."

Trinculos's Avatar

03.12.2012 , 08:54 AM | #42
We have a family run guild on Space Slug, along with a select few friends that are good around our kids. Two of our kids, the wife, and myself play regularly with a perfect tank, heals, 2 dps combo of every class so there's no arguing over loot lol!

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03.12.2012 , 09:43 AM | #43
Quote: Originally Posted by Lunazen View Post
Hi I can't speak for everyone. Here's my take. My youngest (13 in April) had his first taste of an MMO when he was 7 (SWG). He's dabbled in most of the MMO titles since. I give him total freedom regarding the game. I don't restrict what he can see in chat (although to be perfectly honest, nothing more happens in general chat than LFG these days, at least on my server). But even were that not the case, I would not shield him from it. I would monitor, we would discuss, but I would not restrict.

If memory serves, you had a thread a while back about vulgarity in chat? I could be wrong, but same forum avatar and your name rings a bell. Anyway, I'll reiterate what I wrote in that thread regarding the issue: I've been homeschooling since 2000. My first homeschooled kiddo is in college now (20), and my second and last child is almost 13. He's taller than me (nearly 6 feet!), smarter than me, has a voice deeper than his dad's, and has the maturity of a 20 year old (probably because he's been his big brother's shadow all his life). lol. I only say this to illustrate that he's not a little boy anymore.

I allow a relatively relaxed and open exposure to the world, to include (but certainly not limited to) gaming. With a viewpoint that "the world is our classroom," I count anything and everything (within reason) as a learning opportunity. In SWTOR, negative things that arise (not that sex is a negative thing at all.. speaking more of the violence, "genocide," chat, etc.,) serve as topic starters. MMO's especially have been great opportunities for discussions ranging from sociology, psychology, leadership, teamwork, economy... you name it, it's in an MMO.

Regarding sex, it's certainly not like sexytime in SWTOR is at all graphic. Fade to black. He knows what's going on (as he's known since he was 8). No harm in it.

His favorite games are Mass Effect, KOTOR, and Skyrim. He plays Gears of War most nights with his older brother and their friends on XBox Live. Yes, he saws people in half. We've had a nice long chat that he is not to repeat the behavior irl

Bottom line for me: I can and do use gaming as a method for teaching him right from wrong. Fantasy is fantasy and people are people. He must learn to distinguish the first from reality and deal with the second regardless of the circumstances.

edited to add: not judging you and your parenting either When it comes to the job, there is more than one way to skin a cat (horrible saying but conveys the meaning perfectly)

Ah, thank you for the reply! Yes, that was me who started that thread about not just profanity, but inappropriate subject matter in chat.

Certainly a more relaxed approach to teaching one's child about the world is valid and totally acceptable. Again, I do not judge another parent's methods, I am merely always nosy and tend to ask questions xD. I have to be careful how I word my questions as many times they come off as antagonistic. Not my intention at all. Anyway, I digress.

My son is one of those children who is extremely bothered by things that might not faze other children. At times it surprises my husband and I when he comes to us in the middle of the night in tears over something he saw in a movie we took him to. A character died or the injustice of the death upset him so much that he could not sleep. Now, this is always an opportunity to teach him or impress upon him the importance of mercy or fairness or what have you. He is particularly affected when he sees someone bullied or oppressed. And we do always seize that chance to impart some lesson. My point is, some children at THIS tender age are subject to very erratic and unpredictable emotions that certain media or entertainment may only exacerbate.

Now, that is not to say that ALL kids in the tween/pre-teen range are afflicted with such swings in their moods and emotions. I just find that for us, in our house, we have to tread very carefully with our oldest when it comes to the entertainment we allow him to consume. With our second-born son? Pft...we'll likely let him play TOR with restrictions once he gets a bit older just because he's the exact OPPOSITE of his brother and isn't bothered in the slightest by things that would ordinarily send the oldest into my arms in a heap of tears.

I, too, employ many of the same methods of teaching my children as you yourself do, Lunazen....and in all fairness, my husband does a far better job than me when it comes to using all situations as a potential classroom for our kids.

What's funny and ironic is that my HUSBAND'S parents were extremely restrictive and pretty much never allowed he and is siblings ANY freedoms regarding the outside world, entertainment, video games or the like. My husband turned out well-adjusted and laid-back...and virtually the OPPOSITE of his parents. Sometimes I think he's TOO laid-back and permissive with our kids but then I just have to realize his upbringing and try to relax. He helps me to remember to let the kids breathe give them some space and to NOT be like his mother lmao.

Anyway, thank you for your thoughts on this!
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03.12.2012 , 10:32 AM | #44
my son is 14 and he has his own account and so do i, So we get to play with each other on the server. Both Imps not in same guild yet but he keeps on asking me to join.

Dnt want to show him up tho hehehe !!!
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Lunazen's Avatar

03.12.2012 , 11:06 AM | #45
Quote: Originally Posted by lendarya View Post
I think it is wonderful you allow your children to view everything in game and use it as a learning tool but I have to ask. Will your views on freedom change at all when same sex relationships enter the game? How do you believe your child would react? Thanks for your replies
Nope, they won't change at all. He's well aware of homosexuality. He would have no reaction. In a game, he's already been exposed to it via Mass Effect. In the real world, one of his relatives discovered his orientation (which all, including my son, had figured out long before he did for himself) and came out a few years ago. SWTOR would not be the first exposure to the concept

Quote: Originally Posted by Kabjat View Post

Anyway, thank you for your thoughts on this!
And thanks for yours!

I was a bit of that sensitive child when I was younger. Things affected me emotionally very easily. The opera cartoon with Bugs and Elmer Fudd? Destroyed me when I thought Bugs was dead LOL

Sounds like you have great balance in your house
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03.13.2012 , 09:32 AM | #46
We do have the restriction on our 8 and 6 yr olds is that they play Republic (and Jedi only) right now. While I understand you can go dark-side on Republic, it's much, MUCH lighter than the mirror on Empire. As they get a little older, this will obviously change.
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03.13.2012 , 09:37 AM | #47
Quote: Originally Posted by Jedi_Barbie View Post
We do have the restriction on our 8 and 6 yr olds is that they play Republic (and Jedi only) right now. While I understand you can go dark-side on Republic, it's much, MUCH lighter than the mirror on Empire. As they get a little older, this will obviously change.
That's not a bad idea. Lucky for me my son only likes playing the good guys.

Zellah's Avatar

03.13.2012 , 11:11 AM | #48
I play with my 29 year old son and his friends. This son and his older brother got me into gaming when UO first came out. Now I am retired and they have small children so grandma will return the favor and try and get their kids involved

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03.13.2012 , 11:15 AM | #49
yeah me & my son(14) plays we have been gaming for the last 5 years together

Major_Mayhem's Avatar

03.13.2012 , 11:30 AM | #50
I have a gigabit ether net prewired house with 9 computers. Each of my kids has a computer and we game allot.

The sexual content and upcoming same sex relationships have me concerned. as a parent I do not feel it is appropriate for younger persons and I can not let my younger kids play.

Outside of that issue I have no issue with my older kids (late teens) and I would also love to get my wife involved. I think what this game needs is a family account.

For $25 set up $5-$10 extra a month per login you can have multiple log ins. only 1 character per login. The account must have a security key and all log ins must use the same key.

This way I can play on my main or an alt and my wife and/or one or more of my kids can create and play an alt on my account at the same time.

Bioware makes extra money, I get my family involved while keeping the game affordable.
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