if you want to invite me to party, ASK ME first.

I'm waiting on a mob to spawn...Obi Wan comes along and is CLEARLY waiting for the same spawn...I right click his/her portrait and invite them....this is wrong? No it's not...

I have taken the liberty to circumvent the obvious retorts to my post with the following hypothetical questions:

"If you don't wanna be invited to groups, you should just go play a single-player game."

No. I don't mind being invited to groups. What I do mind is someone inviting me to party without showing me the courtesy of ASKING me first if I wish to party with them.

"Turn on auto-decline group invites if you are such an anti-social person. Gawd, it's an MMO, people group to do stuff."

I love to group with people in order to meet a common objective. In fact, I am usually quite enthusiastic to party up with other players...provided they are willing to behave in a social manner themselves by being POLITE. It's RUDE to ninja-invite. Is it so hard to WHISPER someone and ask them if they even WANT to do the same thing you are doing?

And incidentally, I HAVE toggled auto-decline after today...didn't even know it was an option till my husband showed me. It cheeses me off that I have to and that people are so socially stunted that they can't be bothered to ASK first.

I'm all for efficiency. But when someone just spams me with his party invite without any regard to what I may be doing, it just makes me NOT want to party with him on principle alone. Like, even if I do want to do the same thing he wants to do, Saving Face, Personal Challenge, whatever....if he sends an invite without asking first, it's a forgone conclusion that I will NOT group with that person.

I think you've actually hit on the sticking point here. Some people feel that without some kind of whisper they have no real way of knowing whether or not the invite suits their needs. It obviously suits the needs of the person inviting them, or they wouldn't have sent an invitation. It just seems like the polite thing to do would be to whisper a bit of information to the person you are trying to get help from, so that they can determine whether grouping up is beneficial to them.

I think you've actually hit on the sticking point here. Some people feel that without some kind of whisper they have no real way of knowing whether or not the invite suits their needs. It obviously suits the needs of the person inviting them, or they wouldn't have sent an invitation. It just seems like the polite thing to do would be to whisper a bit of information to the person you are trying to get help from, so that they can determine whether grouping up is beneficial to them.

On a side note, I completely agree about WAR's public quests. Those were a lot of fun. Well, until the population dropped so low you no longer had enough people in the quest area to do them anymore, lol. But that's another story!

True for me as well. Its just a shame that some people are unable to express those viewpoints without resorting to unwarranted personal attacks. Which are not necessary. Um, hence the "unwarranted" part.

Yeah.

If the OP says "yes, me please" to "Anyone for X", then OP KNOWS what the invite is for.

Ok let's stop with the ninja invite stuff...it's simply an invite. There is no button that says ninja...and 999 out of 1000 people are just trying to be social to accomplish a common goal..

I do it. I don't ninja. And it is not harassment for cripes sake.

It usually gies like this..

I'm waiting on a mob to spawn...Obi Wan comes along and is CLEARLY waiting for the same spawn...I right click his/her portrait and invite them....this is wrong? No it's not...

Obi Wan accepts. We kill said mob. I say thnx. He says thnx. Away we go.

Maybe some of you should just try and see the others point of view too. Does it bother you ? It does, i know, so sorry but you are not being harassed.

And these are the keywords, which many of those disagreeing with the OP are conveniently ignoring: "IF I've no idea what you're inviting me for." That is when a blind invite becomes annoying.

Yep, and it's already been agreed by many in this thread, including myself, that in THAT instance, it's ok to no-ask invite. Obviously, if I get a no-ask invite and I'm standing next to an area where a big boss mob spawns, of course i will not take issue with that...indeed, i'd be grateful, especially if I needed that kill! lol

It's when people make assumptions about what I am doing and that I will WANT to do what they are doing that annoys me. And I am somewhat of an MMO noob myself. I started playing wow in 2008, first video game EVER...last one I played before that was on an archaic device that predates Moses called and Atari LMAO. Pac-Man ftw

You are absolutely right in your assertion that many don't blind invite to be rude. After what I have read on this thread, I really can see that now. I guess I have never viewed a whisper as weird or creepy...especially if it's a simple "wanna do X-heroic?" To me, it seems the polite thing to do! xD But here again, that's my opinion.