if you want to invite me to party, ASK ME first.

My problem is that many of you are trying to impose what you're idea of proper behavior entails. People are raised in many different cultures and generations with different ideas of what is acceptable. Someone else may not view it as rude to invite someone that is looking for that flashpoint without psting them. You expect everyone to behave the same as you and to change to fit what you believe to be proper, instead of the other way around.

To say that you're idea of what is proper conduct is better then someone else's is Arrogant and an example of Cultural Absolutism. You weren't raised like them and have no right to judge they're behavior. Its all about perception and the sooner you understand that everyone is differen't the sooner you might understand why they may not pst you first.

Of course many of what I just said, is thrown out when they behave in a way that can harm or hurt someone else.

Ok, I am going to resist the urge to become offended by your sweeping statement that everyone who has replied to this thread is out to force their beliefs and ideals on those who don't agree. I'm going to not become offended because I truly believe you mean no offense by what you say. I respect where you are coming from though. And the more I think about the entire issue, the more I think the last thing you stated is absolutely true in many cases.

Many people who just invite without pst-ing really do mean no disrespect and for me to get annoyed by it is extreme.

ALTHOUGH! And here is my although that my husband always rolls his eyes and sags a bit xD.....

Although some people ARE being thoughtless when they do this. And these are the ones that need to step up and realize there is a whole world of other people playing the game that they can interact with. Instead, they choose to play like a robot in their race to lvl 50. In my mind, it's selfish of THEM to expect others to have that way of thinking.

See where I'm comin' from? I totally agree with you to a point. I think a good meet in the middle is in order for many of us....especially if we wish to build a strong thriving community.

Like even you implied Kabjat, it all depends on the given situation. Obviously, if someone tried to group up with me on Fleet I'd flat out turn it down, but on a planet, where the intentions are fairly apparent, I'd accept before quickly checking if we're on the same level.

I think you're making too much out it, just decline their invite, people are not going to stop doing it because you said so on a forum. Personally, I don't invite without asking myself, but I certainly don't have a problem with it.

If I'm standing in front of a named NPC spawn and it's obvious we're both there for the same specific objective, a blind invite is fine.

However, if this is NOT the case, it is NEVER okay to send me a blind invite. A polite inquiry as to if I'm on the same questlines or if I'd like to fellow up for a bit (that means in REAL WORDS, no "u grp plz") will get a response from me and I'll either accept or decline politely.

People who expect to be "asked first" for a party invite, probably have no responsibility in real life and have had everything handed to them and think they are better than everyone.

Based on nearly 30 years of job experience and over 10 years playing games like this, I've found it's pretty much the other way around. As well, pretty much every time I've politely asked for assistance with something, I've gotten more responses than I can handle. I'm also pretty sure that my sincere "Thank you for the help." at the end hasn't hurt future queries for help either.

even MORE astounding is when you hit decline, the invite reappears....as if the player thinks that there must be some mistake or he will wear me down by attrition.