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leptir
01.26.2014 , 04:10 AM | #1
So I have no where to vent my frustration except on the forums. I was just given a lecture by my dad to play less of swtor (not that he knows what it is) because I "can't control myself and will get addicted" since he saw me have swtor open over the past few days. Now I am a very casual swtor player. Been playing for about a year and my highest toon is 51, the rest are low 20s, although I have 6 toons in total. This ie because I only play on break/ during the holidays becauwe the rest of the time im too busy with homework.

What he said was that I'll get addicted and can't control myself and the game will turn into a hobby such rhat I don't do work properly anymore. The problem is I have no grounds to defend myself even though I do pretty well in school and coaching and he's seen poof of it because he's too stubborn and ignorant and due to the fact that he has power over me. Even if I made a valid argument he would just say something like "I don't care do what the **** I say because I'm always right and I make you money and you don't make money", which is why I've decided to vent my frustration on the forums.

During the holidays I've got a lot of spare time, apart from the occasional piece of homework which I will always do on schedule and I think it would feel more rewarding to spend time that I rarely get outside of break onto an MMO rather than spend my day on youtube watching jennamarbles or something. He thinks that because I'm spending time on this game now,I will get addicted to the game later and not do my work. I always thought of playing the game as a reward for myself. I mean he doesn't even check in on my work. He just occasionally asks oh have you done a bit of maths homework? And then says I won't manage you, you do everything yourself and then goes and watches his tv shows. He doesn't know how much time I normally put into homework and yet hes trying to tell me what to choose as my hobbies. I just feel really pissed about this; somewhat oppressed and that he's just being a lazy parent.

I know most of the swtor playerbase are very mature people and well accomplished in life and dont have to deal with things like this. Im sorry I wrote basically an unstructured essay I just put out what came to mind. If anyone is bored enough to read this could you tell me am I just being a whiny little ***** or am I right? Im 14 almost 15 btw. Wow **** I wrote so much.

Massive kudos to anyone who reads the whole thing.

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leptir
01.26.2014 , 04:20 AM | #2
TLDR: Asian parents are ignorant stubborn ***** who dont give a **** about what their kids have to say.

And yes I've tried talking to him about how I feel once when he told me to delete all violent video games on my computer, because "violent games are more addictive"; it just turned out to be a huge argument with him screaming at me at the top of his lungs.



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Ithilwen
01.26.2014 , 06:00 AM | #3
Sounds like he cares about you, but doesn't know how to show it...


If you want to go to the effort, create a log book of your time spent. It sounds silly, but it could provide evidence of how productive you are with your time (outside of the school holidays in particular).
You shouldn't need to do this, but it's the only thing I can suggest if you want to show him that you aren't addicted to games, given the info you have provided.

[Edit]: Also, if he doesn't know anything about computer games, his reaction is quite understandable, most kids do get addicted to games, and violent games get all the bad media. There's a lot of speculation as to what games do/cause, with only a small portion of it having any real truth. Naturally it's the people outside the gaming community that hear these things and get the wrong idea before doing any research.
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leptir
01.26.2014 , 06:11 AM | #4
Thank you for an honest reply.

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01.26.2014 , 06:28 AM | #5
I don't think your a whiny anything. I think you are simply at the age where your parents way of thinking is a bit lost and frustrating to you. I do believe however that he does care about you but perhaps does lack the ability to actually say it. It sounds like to me that you are good student and takes studies seriously. So my advice, is to take the advice you can hear from your dad and then dismiss what you don't want to hear.

That way you won't find yourself so upset. Also kudos for dealing with your anger and frustration in a positive way. It shows great maturity,
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01.26.2014 , 10:55 AM | #6
Well I am 14 too and I can understand how you feel. I play SWTOR only two hours a day every day (when I finish all my homework, except my stupid reading journal). I think you should tell your dad that you deserve a few hours of video games when all of your work is done just to relax and have your mind on something other than math. Tell him that you being a casual player will not make you a no life gamer.
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01.26.2014 , 10:56 AM | #7
Do a Force Choke on him.

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fdbgjfdhjgkjdhsg
01.26.2014 , 11:08 AM | #8
Quote: Originally Posted by Sadishist View Post
Do a Force Choke on him.
And that is how you convince your dad that swtor doesn't make you violent.
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Prototypemind
01.26.2014 , 02:08 PM | #9
Quote: Originally Posted by Sadishist View Post
Do a Force Choke on him.
Best to CC all friends and family when it's SW time. Force Choke doesn't last long enough.

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Bleeters
01.26.2014 , 02:28 PM | #10
Been there, and it sucks. Your dad's being an idiot.

Quote: Originally Posted by Ithilwen View Post
Also, if he doesn't know anything about computer games, his reaction is quite understandable, most kids do get addicted to games, and violent games get all the bad media. There's a lot of speculation as to what games do/cause, with only a small portion of it having any real truth. Naturally it's the people outside the gaming community that hear these things and get the wrong idea before doing any research.
I don't really want to get into this, but, well, people are stupid. Games get 'all the bad media' in large part as a result of said media feeding on the general population's suspectability to hysteria and willingness to believe that the responsibility for all the worlds problems can be laid at the feet of anything that isn't them, and the media is fully willing to spread those stories because it turns a profit and protects their interests. The only speculating going on is that begun by the ethically bankrupt and perpetuated by the ignorant.

As to the bolded part, no, they don't.