The Female Gamer - Are you guys not over this yet?

I've been playing MMOs since I started FFXI over 10 years ago. I was young when I started playing and have always created male characters. I felt like it helped to avoid the whole getting treated differently for being a girl, and all the rest of that.

When I started SWTOR I followed the same thing, old habits die hard I guess, and I created a male Trooper. However, once I joined my guild and started using voice chat with them, it was obvious I was female. Everyone in my guild has been cool and we have a couple of other girls in the guild as well.

We run a teamspeak server and recently put our photos as avatars for fun.

However, recently, we had a situation where we had a pug DPS join our OPs group because we were missing a dps. We invited him into TS and the second he noticed that I was a girl, I started getting tells from him almost right away. I have no idea how young/old he was, but I'm 26 and am not in the mood to have guys flirting with me over an MMO.

I also haven't seen anything like this in a while, nor heard of it, and figured it was a dying thing with mmos where guys have finally realised that "yeah, girls play too." But apparently not.

Edit:

Let me add by saying a few things:
1) No. This does not shock me. I was just hoping that the MMO community has a whole has grown away from the flirt with females in a video game mentality. But I realize after posting this that expecting a community which will always have younger people in it, makes that impossible, which makes this whole thread pointless.

2) I wasn't complaining. I wasn't attention whoring. I was just merely bringing it up as a topic of discussion. I had no intention to insulting anyone either. If I have, then I apologize.

3) I graduated from college where in my major (programming) the male to female ratio was 25:1. So yes, I am used to being 'outnumbered', around some socially awkward guys, and also being treated as one of the guys sometimes. I'm also used to guys flirting with me, even when I have no interest in men.

Some guys will hit on girls, some guys will bully girls, that goes for MMOs and real life, this is nothing special, at least it sounds like most people you play with don't act like that

personally, i dont care if your female or male, as long you do your job

nothing matters. i never understood why dudes act like that "OMGZ UR A FEEL MAN, FO REELZ?"

you guys realized if you walk out your house and go into another building e.g. store,school, postal office..

you will see these feel mans walking around.

Haha I have seen this myself (Male). Nothing so bad as a direct come on mind you, more the hopelessly enamoured "I will do whatever you want because I think you are pretty" type.

It was very amusing the watch

On the flip side my girlfriend is hugely jealous of a girl I used to talk to on an MMO (I also talked to that girls boyfriend) so I guess people are people wherever you are. And you know how creepy guys can be given half the chance.

Why are you bothered by guys flirting with you ingame?

Men will hit on women inside of a game and outside too, it doesnt make any difference

FFXI was 10 years ago? Whoa. Time flies.

But what did he say? Was it rude or trying to act like this was another EA failed MMO called The Sims Online? And ask for a virtual date. (People who worry so much about it, don't get real life dates anyhow and pixels are as close as they will ever get)

I too think it's so early 1990s thinking that way. I had a girl get me to start playing EVE and AO. Another girl got me into The Sims Online beta then later apologized for subjecting me to that POS. However, the ONLY cool person I met in that beta had a girl avatar but she was cool because of her attitude of trying to help anyone and everyone that asked. Yes, I assumed it was a guy but really was a girl that I kept in touch with after TSO.

Again, people who care so much about pixels and get all hot over them need to get out of the parent's basement and join the real world for once in their miserable lives.

So you were the one that tried to hot chat this http://www.motifake.com/all-gods-chi...rs-152409.html

WTG. Big props that you are that brave, bro.

I've seen it happen on both sides of gender line and both sides of the orientation line.

It's not an OMG you're a female player. It's that there are people who think MMO = dating service.

I'm still amazed that people think they can judge a person's gender by their avatar and their text speech and how they act in game. Been playing MMOs for a long time now, and I can tell you that player you think is an *** can in fact be a girl. That player you think is a sweet girl can in fact be a guy.

Also, let's be honest, cybering is popular in MMOs, so when those who do cyber find out more info on someone, it just increases the behavior such as you mentioned.

There is a difference, because they guys hitting on girls in games do it differently. Sure, there might be guys who also don't get when they meet a girl on the street, but in games all the normal shy guys do stuff they normally don'T do and so their flirt technique is more of a harass than anything else.

I agree with Jacen.

Sometimes it is related to the character you are playing, when no TS or other voicechat is involved.
I have been hit on myself, merely because I happen to have a female character or two, which apparently equals gurrlzz playing.
The whole "Female Gamer" thing is still around, but I personally don't think it is as prevalent anymore. Not at this particular moment in time. Of course, if I were to talk to every single woman who plays this game, I'd probably hear a few stories confirming/denying that.