Am I spoiled by my previous MMO?

What I want is a Star Wars RPG I can play cooperatively with my wife - no multiple other players - just my wife, perhaps over our home network.

I can't be alone in this. Does nobody else want something like that?

Let's assume you are spoiled by having played other games: What's the problem? Gaming has become a highly competitive industry where new entries into the foray are expected to put up or shut up; new games will either deliver an experience that meets or exceeds players' expectations, or they won't. The games that don't will ultimately fizzle out and join the plethora of similar games on shelves, collecting dust.

It's not your fault that there are tons of games on the market. It's not your fault that many games fail to meet expectations when they're inevitably--and rightfully--compared to their competitors. It's not your fault that developers consistently deliver safe games that rehash and reuse outdated mechanics and features as opposed to new and innovative experiences.

Yeah. You're spoiled, but that's good for us and bad for developers. Maybe they'll get the picture and develop a game that expands on what the rest of the pack is doing. I found that game for myself, but it isn't SWTOR.

"Spoiled" might be not quite the right term though it's fairly close to me. Jaded with a touch of rose colored glasses is better, especially when you jump to a fresh, new game from one that's had years of seasoning. For whatever reason, many players as time goes by tend to forget the bumps in the road that most/all MMOs have in their beginning and rally around what was good.

To me, while it's a fair comparison to consider what game A that's been out for 3, 5, or 7+ years to game B that just came out, I think it's an unfair criticism to belittle the new game for all that it lacks when what it's being compared to had as little, or even less, when it launched.

Regardless of what it is that's perceived as lacking, it all takes time to design, code and test. We could have easily been just hearing whispers that beta would be commencing this Fall rather than playing a decently stable (note, I did not say "perfectly" stable) game for the past five months.

But people come from other games where they take for granted certain features and then complain they're not in the new game yet.
"WoW had dual specs, how could we not have them here?" - Didn't get added until first patch post Wrath of Lich King expac (3.1) ... April'09 or 4.5yrs after launch
"SWG had space flight not on rails. How come we don't here?" - Didn't get added until the JTL expac was released ... 16 months after initial launch
"WoW had cross-realm dungeon finder. Where's our cross-realm LFG?" - you may have been using it for two years in WoW before coming to TOR so it felt as comfortable as an old hat ... and you waited for 5 years for Blizzard to add it (patch 3.3)
"WoW's auction house worked so much better with superior functionality. How could BW screw it up so bad?" - Blizzard didn't even include linked auction houses (something we've had since launch) until patch 1.9 in Jan'06 ... or more than 1 year after launch.

Those are just a few of the comment laments I've seen on the forums since TOR's launch. Would it have been better, even great, if those things were addressed prior to launch? Absolutely. No argument here. However, if you think you'd be playing the game now instead of still waiting for it to come out so it could include those things and the many more that people give them grief about, you'd be luck to have been playing it by this Christmas.

TOR isn't perfect by any means. Then again, no MMO is. People either find the game they get fun, or they don't. If they find it fun then they tend to be a little more forgiving of its faults and have some patience with the developers until proven not worthy of that patience. Some folks are at or past that point already. However, some came in with expectations so high it wouldn't have mattered what BW served up, those people still would have been gone after 30, 60 or 90 days.

What I want is a Star Wars RPG I can play cooperatively with my wife - no multiple other players - just my wife, perhaps over our home network.

I can't be alone in this. Does nobody else want something like that?

myself and others like me have decided that SWTOR does not meet that standard in its current form. At least not at its price of $15/month. I'll keep tabs on new additions to the game.

Sergiopitanga has just beaten me to one of these but anyhow; I suggest you do 2 things (specifically referencing Lotro)

1. Remove your rose-tinted spectacles

2. Go here and see how many bug-fixes / tweaks you can find in the first few months entries. (I don't think you'll find those monthly content additions you remember btw).

I too am an ex-Lotro player and subscriber, from pre-release until October last year, when the focus on the store (a legacy of WB's takeover of Turbine) became too much for me to bear. I miss a feature or two that Lotro has for sure - the cosmetic tab being the primary one (customisable UI used to hold that position until 1.2).
But you have to realise that SWTOR has been in development for a long time, and many of the features we take for granted in MMOs were not part of the landscape when the ground plan for this game was laid out. That being said, Bioware have had plenty of opportunity to see MMOs developing while they created the game - and that is why things like the customisable UI have been added. These things are not knocked-up over a weekend, they take months to develop and integrate into a game, and I am confident that similar features which are now considered standard MMO fare will continue to be delivered over the next few months.
Of course if development appears to have stagnated in a couple of months time, then I shall be questioning whether I want SWTOR to be the recipient of my monthly MMO sub fee. But for the time being I am happy with what I am seeing.

P.S. I think that anyone who expects a new to market MMO to incorporate all the current FotM features in current MMOs - plus a twist - is setting themselves up for a lifetime of disappointment.