if you want to invite me to party, ASK ME first.

I apologize if you feel my remarks were rude in any way, I assure you I was not trying to upset you.

I can appreciate your view on the topic...I don't understand it, I do feel it's petty, but I'm not you and I'm honestly not passing judgement on your feelings on the subject - they're neither right nor wrong, they simply differ from mine.

What I am trying to convey is that we (the SWTOR community) should ENCOURAGE more grouping. I absolutely love getting an invite if I'm standing outside a Heroic 4 that I went to, looking at the entrance trying to decide if it's worth asking my guild for help. I'd rather join several people who are already doing it, than to bother people who aren't.

The main point I'm trying to get across is that everyone's situation is different and I HOPE you can try to not pass judgement on someone simply because they send a blind invite. I'm not talking about the guy who's at the spaceport spamming invites to everyone he see's or the guy who's demanding people spacebar cut-scenes...I'm talking about the few random invites from people who more than likely meant well with the invite.

Community means more to MMOs than any amount of content any company could ever develop. I'm sure you're a good person, and one who ADDS to the community in ways very few do...because of that, try to be a leader and say "Thanks for the invite.", get a feel for their level of play and maybe then explain that blind invites work worse than a simple tell.

Again, I can understand your feelings on the matter, I'm not suggesting you're wrong in feeling that blind invites are 'rude'ish', but I will also attest that MOST blind invites are not meant to upset you in any way...just the opposite in fact. I know that if I send one, it's because I genuinely feel that the person I'm inviting will BENEFIT from the invite...not that I can recall the last one I sent, but I'm sure I have sent them.

tl;dr Don't pass judgement and try to exercise patience with people - we're not ALL out to get you :P

Agreed. As in, I couldn't agree any more if I tried. Look, I'll try right now:

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Nope. Still can't agree with you any more than I already do. I am at maximum agreement right now.

Kabjat has been exceedlingly polite thoughout this thread. She has even changed her opinion somewhat as the discussion has evolved and challenged her own views about what it means when people send a blind invite. She has welcomed the opinions of others and encouraged people to share their opinions even if they disagree with her. She has respected the opinions of others even if she disagrees with them.

Insulting and condescending? Not even.

Now THAT'S how you disagree with someone. Well said, TUXs. See people? There is plenty of room to disagree with someone and still be respectful of them. TUXs just proved it.

Nice post.

BW should change the invite system so that the person doing the inviting is required to check off the quest they want to do, or just a quick explanation of what they wanna group for, if the person being invited does not share any of the same quests as the one who is blind inviting. This way, the invitee can quickly ascertain the reasons without wondering. Everyone wins.

Completely disagree. From the start in the OP she was insulting to those who she perceived as not agreeing.

Sheer hypocrisy, and high horsemanship. From the very beginning. A few polite posts don't change the fact there were negative ones also.

And going back and editing them out doesn't change that they were made also. So I guess it's not trolling its dishonesty after all.

In my opinion she has tried to communciate, and has kept commucations open as much as can be expected.

No, its common sense that if you want help you explain what you want when asking for it.

I'm busy doing my thing, why do I need to stop what I'm doing to explain to someone who has sent me a blind invite from across the map why I'm not going to join them?

I'd be putting in more effort then they are into a exchange they instigated. You're putting more responsibility on the invitee the you are the inviter which i s backwards.

I'm sorry, but you seem as though you are completely unwilling to even try to see the other point of view on this issue

and seem focused solely on your personal opinion of the OP rather than the issue at hand.

I just don't find it a big deal enough to try start this whole mountain out of a mole hill thread.

Okay, Deyjarl, I give up. The OP is a vile, evil, nefarious person, deceitful and wretched in every way. Is that what you want to hear?

I'm asking you to try to put things in a reasonable perspective.

You seem to be approaching this from an extremely emotional point of view

And yes, that was my final word to you, as I don't think this discussion is going anywhere. I'm sorry you feel the way you do, but I don't know what you want anyone to do about it.