if you want to invite me to party, ASK ME first.

Well, I am of the opinion that rudeness is what sends the SWTOR community in decline. It's really not hard to show a bit of courtesy.

If you had read my post you would see that I clearly stated that I LOVE to group with people. I really do...

I guess I have never experienced this - you mean someone just does the who screen and invites you randomly? Or do you have the looking for group up and get an invite? Are they in a different area and they invite you for no apparent reason? Then yes that would be weird and annoying but I don't see how this could be a common thing.


I will click the purple icon by someone's name if we are in the same area and its obvious that we are going for the same goals. I don't see why I need to say- hey you going to kill that guy up there? I have never had anyone refuse my invites nor has anyone complained.

I must say with the attitude those who don't want to whisper at all have in this thread i'm quite happy to continue declining their cold invites. They're not really the sort of people i want to play with anyway.

I generally accept the blind invite and then just watch as they run around doing stuff. When they do finally ask why I'm not helping I tell them I am waiting for them to tell me what they wanted to do in the first place. Can usually get half a quest done without doing any work.

I always thought the invite was asking...


Think about it in real life terms. Could you imagine? "If you want to invite me to a party, ASK ME first." What the hell do you think the word "invite" means, people?

Calling people who want to form groups unsociable? This thread is pretty weird.

Try accepting and then asking what's up.

Socializing are the most important thing in every MMO games. Some people are good and friendly, others - really annoying one. You have powerful "ignore" spell to avoid their.
Well, I re-read your first post but did not believe you. I played about more dozen mmorpg, and mainly cases when person hated other peoples, it's only one way has to solution - the really reason in its person, not the others people.
I played swtor from beta and always need to find people to party, and calling out for half-hour or even hour sometimes. So-called "ninja-inviting" was about half-dozen times - and always it was a missclicking or misunderstood by similar quest-naming. I had use ignore people only one time for annoying reapitable ninja-looting from one player, who ask no one on the questions and continue.
The key for the good multyplayer's gameplay are simple - be friendly, never lazy to ask another time other people (swtor text log full of useless thrash), help others, never be silent, and ever hope the any other person are doing same.
I've never understand that topics. You have all that you needed tools in this game to avoid from person you wan't played with, but you typed so many posts, for what?

ps. I see the greater part of people in the SWtOR prefer solo-questing and it's no good for game and community and the future to both of it. I see the some people even blame the other players who want to grouped with others in mmorpg or asked that he/she done it solo - it's so ridiculous and strange - I had better to finish my post and seek normal friendly cooperative players in the game. Excuse me, but I think that this topic are totally useless.

To use your party analogy, imagine if it were commonplace to receive party invitations in the mail that said nothing more than:

Party.
My house.
Right now.

Um...what kind of party is it? Is it a birthday party? Is it a costume party? Is it a Tupperware party? How long will this party last? Do I need to bring something?

That's what a wordless invite is like.



I guess I don't understand how not speaking to someone is being social. I feel that greeting someone and asking if they'd like to join you is being social.



Again, I'm confused as to why its too much bother to say a few words to the person you'd like to invite, but then expect them to initiate the conversation after accepting the invitation. Its a stance of "I don't really want to talk to you, but I'm hoping you'll help me with my needs." Its basically treating the other player like they are an NPC in a single player RPG who has been placed there specifically to help you.

Honestly, I think its just a different kind of philosophy. I'm certainly not picking on you, Alexthree. I don't think your position is "wrong". For people who like to play MMOs efficiently and quickly, leveling fast and reaching endgame, your way makes perfect sense. Why waste time?

But there are others who play MMOs who enjoy meeting people and talking with them, and making friends along the way. These are the "let's stop and smell the flowers" kind of people, who are in no hurry to get somewhere. Its about the experience of living in the virtual world. Both philosophies are fine, but they are like oil and water to each other.

I'm definitely of the old-school "smell the flowers" group. I dislike it when people invite me without so much as a greeting, because I find it socially abrupt and a bit jarring, but I do understand that they don't mean any offense. I usually just decline the invitation because I know that if they're in too much of a hurry to talk to me I probably won't enjoy grouping with them anymore than they would with me.

Meh. <lip begins to tremble> Can't we all just get along! <sniff!>