if you want to invite me to party, ASK ME first.

The difference between sending an invite that says "come to my birthday party on the 21st at the community hall, open bar" and "come to the community hall on the 21st". The 1st invitation would get a polite reply and the 2nd would get the waste paper basket.

If you'd read my post, I don't want blind invites at all, but consider a quick blind invite less rude than kill stealing a mob I am waiting for.

You can't kill steal in this game. First to hit gets the credit....

I guess I have never experienced this - you mean someone just does the who screen and invites you randomly? Or do you have the looking for group up and get an invite? Are they in a different area and they invite you for no apparent reason? Then yes that would be weird and annoying but I don't see how this could be a common thing.


I will click the purple icon by someone's name if we are in the same area and its obvious that we are going for the same goals. I don't see why I need to say- hey you going to kill that guy up there? I have never had anyone refuse my invites nor has anyone complained.

I'm using the EQ terminology where kill stealing is tagging a mob that I am camping/waiting for (and have been since before you turned up at the spawn point) a split second before I do and thus blocking me from kill credits or loot rights.

I'm using the EQ terminology where kill stealing is tagging a mob that I am camping/waiting for (and have been since before you turned up at the spawn point) a split second before I do and thus blocking me from kill credits or loot rights.

I have taken the liberty to circumvent the obvious retorts to my post with the following hypothetical questions:

"If you don't wanna be invited to groups, you should just go play a single-player game."

No. I don't mind being invited to groups. What I do mind is someone inviting me to party without showing me the courtesy of ASKING me first if I wish to party with them.

"Turn on auto-decline group invites if you are such an anti-social person. Gawd, it's an MMO, people group to do stuff."

I love to group with people in order to meet a common objective. In fact, I am usually quite enthusiastic to party up with other players...provided they are willing to behave in a social manner themselves by being POLITE. It's RUDE to ninja-invite. Is it so hard to WHISPER someone and ask them if they even WANT to do the same thing you are doing?

And incidentally, I HAVE toggled auto-decline after today...didn't even know it was an option till my husband showed me. It cheeses me off that I have to and that people are so socially stunted that they can't be bothered to ASK first.

I'm all for efficiency. But when someone just spams me with his party invite without any regard to what I may be doing, it just makes me NOT want to party with him on principle alone. Like, even if I do want to do the same thing he wants to do, Saving Face, Personal Challenge, whatever....if he sends an invite without asking first, it's a forgone conclusion that I will NOT group with that person.

EQ you could kill steal because those who did the most damage got the credit for the kill, not those who engaged first. So you are using it wrong there too.