if you want to invite me to party, ASK ME first.

didn't know it was a drug reference. sorry >.<

Wow, really?
For me group invite = offer to group. If one doesn't want to group with me he will just decline and move on. I will not bother him again.

Actually yes, I'm the same as the OP. When I'm doing something other than waiting/looking for a group an invite appearing in the middle of my screen is as annoying as an update stealing my cursor while I'm working in word or excel.

Before you send me an invite I want to know what you intend or want to do (some times it's obvious, like if we are camping a spawn point and requires no conversation). If I get a random invite and I have no idea what the objective of the group is (which heroic or flashpoint) then I never accept. I don't accept and then ask "what are we doing?" I want to know before hand or I don't group.

You know why a person invites you in party and you refuse because he didn't ask first?
Now THAT'S rude, the invite was totally fine.

If the invite happens again right after the first one was declined, then the person inviting is being rude and I approve your second decline.

Don't decline invites if you can see why the invite occurred. And if you insist on being polite then why don't YOU send a message saying something like "I'm not in a mood for grouping atm" or "I'd like to finish this one alone for more exp".

You just decline, ignore and claim that the other guy was rude because he didn't ask.
Oh please

Well, when that same person is spamming general for LFM and then I get an invite from that person, I find that annoying. Clearly, if I wished to group at that time, I would have told him upon seeing his LFM notice in chat. If he can be bothered to spam chat, he can be bothered to at least ask first before inviting.

This is my opinion. I am not insisting that everyone change their way of doing things. I am simply opening a discussion on this topic because clearly, based on responses, this same thing annoys others as well.

how about sending an invite is asking... and when you decline its you saying no...


not that hard, man some people...

What in the world are you referring to???

Let's look at how the OP disagrees with someone:

Now, let's contrast that with how you disagree with someone:

The OP has been nothing but polite and respectful even when disagreeing with people. I really don't get all the attitude here.

On topic, one of the criticisms I see all the time is how the community ingame isn't very social. In my opinion, being social doesn't mean wordlessly spamming invites. It is initiating a friendly conversation with someone, finding out what their objective is, and then asking whether or not the person would like to achieve said objective together.

I'm aware that that probably seems like a lot of effort for some people. But really, wordlessly spamming invites and then running from goal to goal isn't really being social, its just dragging someone else along in your single-player RPG. It makes everything feel so rushed. Its like "OMG, we have to hurry and complete these objectives so we can max-level our characters!! There's no time to TALK!!!"

My opinion, of course. It doesn't mean that I think people shouldn't play that way if that is their preference. But I happen to agree with the OP. Except for waiting for obvious respawns, group invites should be preceded by a greeting of some kind. The world shouldn't be in such a hurry that basic pleasantries need to be abandoned.

This, oh God this!
If there was an upvote option on these forums, you would have 4 from me. I don't know how, but I would provide them

THIS ^^^^

honestly, to the people who have responded aggressively to this sentiment, I have to wonder why you feel that way? Why do you feel affronted by this?

Keep in mind that I sincerely wish to know. All the reasons have been laid out pretty thoroughly already in this thread as to why ninja inviting is annoying....and those of us who DO find it annoying have all pretty much agreed (on this thread anyway) that if the objective is obvious, like killing a big boss elite that everyone needs then inviting without explanation is ok.

What the debate is centered around is just inviting someone without a word of explanation if it is not immediately obvious or apparent what that player is doing. Why is this done? Why can the person simply not whisper and ASK first? So far, I haven't gotten a straight answer to this >.>

I'd say you are over-looking posts then.