Hello everyone,

 

I have been playing the game for a while now, and I have reached almost level 30, participated in every flashpoint and group quest available to my level and met lots of new people.

 

I am on The Progenitor server, which is PVE RP (EU), the main reason being I enjoy to socialise whenever I can, and make new friends who are on a similar wave of thoughts.

 

 

I am shy by nature, so it can be a bit hard for me to just jump in a group of people who are RPing, or in the middle of a conversation, I also find it a little rude if you are uninvited.

 

The lack of chat bubbles also makes it hard for me to properly follow the events that are taking place before my eyes, even though I made a tab just to receive social messages.

 

I am getting a little worried to reach level 50 and not having made even a proper friend, and no, I do not count those you +add after a flashpoint, as I do not think someone can truly become friends like that, since you usually never hear from them again anyways.

 

I am also not asking to join a guild because, I believe RP or socialising should occur anywhere at any point, and not just organized by people prior a meeting.

 

Now, I am obviously not asking, how do you add friends to your friend list, but how do you personally make friends and socialise?

Edited December 29, 2011 by Black_Rabbit

I'll be your friend, come to Ajunta Pall RP-PVP

Be careful, I sense the pedophille in this one...

Best way is to get involved in several guilds, move on if it's not doing it for you and find another until it clicks.

You'll find people along the way that you just don't want to leave.

It can be very daunting especially if you don't have any RL friends playing with you.

But most of the time everyone is very open and friendly.

Talk to people, ask questions, be considerate

Be careful, I sense the pedophille in this one...

 

DRATS THERE GOES MY PLAN! I would've gotten away with it too if it wasn't for those meddling kids.

I've found the best way to do this is with your friends list. Just check in with a couple of them whenever you sign on. See how they're doing, what they're up to and if they need any help. That approach has always worked well for me.

roll a pure healer.

roll a pure healer.

 

winner

Are you a Girl? No? Your SOL.

 

Yes? Make sure everyone knows that. You'll have friends in no time... Even if it is only 15 and 16 year old boys.

I like to offer my "goods" in the Catina (hope I spelled that right?), seems to work well.

cantina. it's space mexican for bar.

Since actual advice on this thread is in short supply...

 

Honestly, making friends in game is very similar to how you make friends in the real world. You have to put yourself out there. If you go around doing the things that you like to do, in areas that are populated with people that are similarly interested as you, you're going to be in luck. However, if the things that you like to do are not the types of things that huge congregating populations of people are doing, you're going to struggle to meet even acquaintances.

 

Lets take a case in point. You mentioned that you feel that the people you +add after a Flashpoint are not what you count as friends. Why not? My question isn't to suggest that you should change your stance but rather for you to look at the situation a bit differently. Why did you add them? Was it because they seemed capable and you might ask them for aid with further Flashpoints? Was it because they said something funny, you liked it, and resigned to talk to them later but never did? Was it just "doing what you do after a successful run"?

 

See my point here is that you can't really have a huge list of friends unless you are willing and brave enough to be the innitiator. It's not stalking to send a tell to someone like:

 

"Hey, Beardedbiker, I know I said your name was a bit silly on an RP server but I think we had a lot of fun in that Flashpoint the other day. Perhaps you'd like to hit another one with me sometime today"?

 

Appeal to what others in the game like to do that are of similar interest to you.

 

Another thing (the thing I actually do myself) is to look online via Google search and find Guilds that have similar interests and goals. Do you like RP? Google "SWTOR RP guilds Fan Fiction". You'd be surprised at the quality of guilds out there. Googling RP guilds works well too, but the Fan Fiction addition will provide you with a better insight into the quality and aims of that Guild's RP.

 

Perhaps conversely you have some social expectation. I once saw a SWTOR guild that had 500 people in it and was a "Christian Guild". Personally that seemed a bit strange to me but I looked at their website and they were surprisingly organized. What it proved to me is that communities will form where there are individuals coming together for common interests.

 

TL;DR version:

 

Find what you want. Look for others that want the same. Get out of your shell and meet people. People actually like people that like to talk about their interests It's not as scary as you think.