Luckily most of the time i'm healing and if the tank sucks, well i'll do my darndest to make him look like a million bucks. Just to prove a point here's a short story.......
On my sage healer, late night around 2am server time que'd for fp. Got insta que with a guild group of fresh 50's for Kaon. My tank had 17k hp in daily purples no set bonus's. I had a gunslinger in columi. The other dps was a Sent in greens, wish I had a screenshot.
We didn't die once, didn't hit enrage timers, and I have since then heal'd them many times for fp's cause for some reason they have a hard time keeping healers around due to gear prejudice and they're a late night crew. I think they're 2 brothers and a cousin, super polite dudes, listened well, took advice and even APOLOGIZED for lack of gear to which i replied. "We'll be fine" and "You gotta start somewhere".
All it takes is for the new people to be willing to listen, and a good teacher who is patient and willing to teach. I wish all the new groups I ran into read the same book these guys did. 3cheers!
I've had that experience myself at least half a dozen times in the past year. I usually end up running that group through 3 HM's for the weekly in one long string. Even more times I've gotten a group that wiped a few times, until we worked things out.
I tell the dps a few things :
1) if you want to make the first attack - roll a tank.
2) If you want to do a good job playing a dps, you should know that a good dps doesn't make pulls.
3) after the tank pulls - count to three before you attack.
4) interrupt everything
If they stick with that- we never have any real problems. ~ even if the tank is horrible
A lot of these players are guilded, and I really have to wonder what exactly does their guild do? Since these players don't have a basic understanding of how to take on HM bosses.
I always end up playing with these people again, and I enjoy it everytime ~ because they play better everytime I see them.
Just after launch we were going through the same HM's with blue 48 mods...
the bosses hadn't been nerfed yet....
every wipe cost almost 7K in repair bills.... (& no legacy repair droid)
we hadn't figured out how to skip everything....
& for some reason ~ it was a lot more fun.