more or less this
If you see anything offensive or ugly happening don't be 'to sensitive" - just put some distance between yourself and the incident.
In the online world this is known as "minimizing or switching tabs".
In the real world, this translates to if you see abuse - say a woman being told to stay in the kitchen - just walk into the next room and put your headphones on.
This is of course possible only if it isn't happening to you. If it's happening to you, then you can be sure everyone else is busy not being "to sensitive" and putting distance between themselves and what is happening to you so you should just put up and shut up and hope someone else is targeted next.
This way our society can improve tremendously - we get to turn a blind eye to what's going on and bullies and the truly offensive can flourish with impunity.
See no evil, hear no evil - isn't it a truly beautiful thing?
I can appreciate your tongue in cheek comment here....and I agree completely.
This is my opinion about the "grow a thicker skin, welcome to the internet" crowd:
A) They resent the reminder that they have been completely desensitized by their prolonged existence in the safe anonymous bubble of online gaming, never so much as having a blip of conscience when others act like racist, misogynistic thugs, so they lash out at those of us who insist EVERYONE be accountable for their actions, or
B) they are the actual offenders that darken an online community with their presence and don't LIKE to be called out on their behavior, or
C) they are lazy and don't care...until THEY are on the receiving end of abuse.
I think the majority fall under the first and last categories.