As for your 4 dps through a flashpoint; I said the exact same thing: 4 dps through LI. What's your point?
Then why can't you make it through a HM FP with a less than average healer?
If you have a great tank and a great dps, then the healer should only have to heal the tank. Which any fresh 50 should be able to do, provided they are not getting tore up by the mobs (should dps be killing in the wrong order).
Just noticed we are on the same server...You must really have some bad luck, because I have been very lucky to get some very good healers there. Of course, I mainly just do fp on the republic side. On the imp I have another healer, but she just does guild runs.