I do not feel that this is a sad or destructive arrangement, not for consenting adults. Ruth is very much a monogamist by nature, and Wynston is very much not, and that's one of the things they accept – with the understanding that he keeps it out of sight – because for them it's not a dealbreaker.
This is something that has been bothering me lately. I know Ruth and Wynston love each other, but Wynston not being monogamist while in a relationship with one... how has this worked so well over the long term? I figure Ruth doesn't want to get married again because lolQuinn, but she also isn't bothered about being in a relationship with a man who can and will have sex with someone as part of a mission. Human nature would trend toward jealousy, paranoia, asking questions, inquiring about bringing home unwanted visitors (in the form of Space STDs). I know Ruth has known Wynston for many years, but that just gives her more examples of just what the man is capable of on the field.
Is this something that is outright avoided so the relationship doesn't end? I mean, you say it's not a dealbreaker, but I can't remember a time when this subject is even broached. Perhaps I've simply forgotten. The only bits I recall of Ruth thinking about Wynston and his missions were times when she was worried for his safety. There wasn't any sign that a rogue thought of "I wonder who he'll sleep with to complete this one" popped up.
What exactly is their relationship? I can see the love, but I can't, in my limited, biased mind, see how this relationship works without Ruth being paranoid or slightly jealous (even if she deems it irrational behavior). It just bothers me.
I'm probably the only one.
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