I hope everything after ROTJ is disregarded.
The movies were mythical fantasy and mythology with science fiction veneer. The EU is mostly just science fiction that makes me feel like I'm watching Star Gate with Star Wars characters and outfits.
I hope the new movies are mythological sagas, with the focus on destiny and archetypal good vs evil and the exploration of the grey between those two.
I hope there are echos of the Ghosts of Mortis Clone Wars story arc as well.
Umm, that's EXACTLY where the novels are right now. The past 9 book cycle was exactly what you are looking for and the next main novel in the timeline is called Crucible and is looking for the Mortis/Crucible world from the Clone Wars tv show.