ah, the smug eliteism in this thread...you guys do realise that your just one quarter of the group right? being a tank does not make you an almigthy god with rights to decide who gets to stay. hate elitist jerks like you guys.
I agree with you, it might feel elitist. however, in a pug group a tank is the default leader. you have to let him dictate the pace.
If a DPS jumps ahead and pulls without me and the Healer is ok with it, I just do my job and tank the add the dps is not hitting.
To be fair though, I have no had to tank a pug FP for a long time. I run with guildies and have FPs done in record times as they are mainly for comms.