I play on Ebon Hawk, an RP-PvE server. Queue times vary for both PvE and PvP, depending usually on what level range, FP, or time of day it is. We get a lot of people declining queues (usually at level 50), and it's very annoying. I usually play the healer role in Groupfinder.
I know your situation is bad...I understand how you feel. Having said that, I would trade in my current situation for yours at this point. At least your queue times seem to be popping in a timely fashion. As annoying as it is for people to decline, at least it's popping to begin with.