First, allow me to apologize that you encountered this situation. It certainly was not our intention to railroad anyone into any companion romance plotline. Player choice is a core part of the game experience, and anything taking that away is very concerning!
It is not intended for Players to enter a romance with Jorgan without specifically choosing to flirt with him, by picking Player options marked with [Flirt] when he first shows a romantic interest. If you never chose such options, and have not already filed a bug on this issue, please do, so that we can investigate further.
I apologize profusely, I appear to have had a blind day when you posted. How I missed bright yellow text, I don't know. Either way thank you for responding and letting me know that that was not intentional. Knowing this, I feel much better. I am submitting a bug report now.