It would really help if people got in the habit of mentioning their region, as I think several replies assume US (and Canderous is PvE and
You had quite a bit of bad luck choosing a server: Uthar Wynn is the least populated server (shared with 5 others) in EU according to http://www.torstatus.net/shards/eu
A PvP EU server means Tomb of Freedon Nadd, Legions of Lettow and Starstorm are the top 3 in terms of population, though that site doesn't show faction (im)balance. And depending on your pc, they might be too
populated for a decent framerate on the fleet.