I too am boggled by the anti-dungeon-finder campaign. I mean, I understand the reasons against a cross-server tool, but seriously, why not a same server matching system? It isn't like it absolutely stops you from continuing to do your "hay guis les b friens foever!" thing and find LIKE-MINDED people on your server that do want to be your bestie, but for other people that don't want to be banished to the fleet for all eternity to find a group, we would like something to smooth out the search.
You guys say "oh be patient, doesn't take you that long to fill a group." Well you are overlooking the fact that some people would like to multi-task. Such as going and doing dailies or gathering or finishing quests they missed while simultaneously being matched for a group. If I want to run an instance and do my dailies, I have to lay them flat time-wise, and tack on an unknown amount of time for filling the group, where-as I could just be doing my dailies and letting the game help me where I need it. I could even add a couple of people from my friends list and let the tool do the rest! Where is the harm in that? If it is all the same realm, then griefers and other trolls are still accountable for their actions.
I play a level 50 tank, and I run with a healer and a dps irl friends, but there have been times where we have literally called the run because we have spammed for 20-30 minutes for another dps and gotten zero replies. Not to mention the fact that when they are not on, especially if it isn't peak hours, chances are very slim for me to find a full group. Port Nowhere server too, not exactly low population. Should be very obvious that it would do wonders for chars sub-50, only flashpoint I have never had trouble finding a group for is Black Talon, and that is only because I grab the first person that responds and book it for the entrance.
Yes, I love the game, yes there are many problems, and yes I will continue subscribing, but god I would much rather my money go towards some tangible quality of life improvements inside of the first few months of the game's existence.