I wholly disagree with OP. I play to win and I train to win. This is a competitive game and as so you cannot ask people to 'dial it down'. What we can do and will do is point out how, what and why you need to change or do something different. I fly with anyone and everyone on the Bastion. Experience is everything in this mini game. Why water that down?
That being said the onus lies with the fledgling pilot to bring themselves up and thats not going to happen if you pull your punches so to speak. Fierce pilots make for great training. I went through the trial by fire that this mini game is and I took my beatings knowing that great pilots as enemies will make me a great pilot one day. I will concur with another on this thread, a lot can be done to avoid rofl-stomps if we had a larger matchmaking pool.